Can We All Just Get Along?
The other day I read the type of meme that really annoys me that was posted by a well-educated doctor of psychology. At least I believe that is her degree. Sometimes I am not sure that common sense always follows that degree, but I am not here to bash that doctor, or anyone else that holds a degree.
I find this type of meme to be from the type of person that feels they are justified in putting others down in order to raise themselves above those in a certain group. I have never found this to be a productive strategy. Maybe that’s why I sometimes find politics to be so very childish.
But getting back to the meme, it reads like this;
A Male is a Big Boy That Does What He Wants,
A Real Man Honors His Responsibilities.
Well, what if what he desires IS to honor his responsibilities? She makes it sound like men do not want to honor their responsibilities, but are thrust into doing so. There are some men out there that actually take pride in fulfilling their responsibilities. There are good men out there. There are good men that read this from women that post it and the first thing that goes through their head is, what about women? Women are so head strong about promoting equality that sometimes they forget that it is equality they are after and end up putting men down instead of boosting themselves.
No one but you can define you as a human being
In the comments section I read a quote that went like this…
“All your life you are told by others what it means to be a “Real Man”. And you are told how worthless you are if you don’t measure up.
Just know this. Anyone man or woman sending you this message is trying to shame you into their service. They are manipulating you to carry their load, to take on their hardships; even to bleed and die for their cause… or their profit.
Don’t buy the lie. No one but you can define you as a human being or measure your worth. Never trust anyone who puts an adjective in front of the word man.”
The context this particular quote was written in or the person that wrote it is irrelevant. With the exception of the word man at the end (it should have read ‘man or woman’, or ‘person’), it is a great quote. Why do we feel the need to segregate parts of our society in order to make ourselves feel better?
Just Trying to Offend Men?
Take the meme quote from above for example. Why did the author of this quote feel the need to separate male from female? Are they saying that women don’t ever do what they want? Or are they saying that women don’t have any responsibilities? For the life of me, I cannot figure out what the author was trying to do with this quote other then put down men in general. I mean, even men that take their responsibilities seriously will be offended by this. It’s almost like the author was saying that now that you have responsibilities you will no longer to ever be able to do anything you want.
It is sayings like this that hinder the feminist movement about trying to make things equal for all. It raises the ire of some that would otherwise be on their side instead of uniting as many as people as possible. A simple slogan of something like “Take your responsibilities seriously” would get the same message across to everyone across the human spectrum. Without offending anyone.
Rodney King, a blue collar worker in California, not a psychiatrist, not a psychologist, no doctorate or degree leaves us with a question to ponder that he asked nearly twenty five years ago…” can we all just get along?”